Seven years ago, in July of 2015, I started an online Facebook group, the Community of Single People, for people who want to discuss every aspect of living single except dating or trying to unsingle themselves. We talk about all sorts of things — our joys and accomplishments, our challenges and frustrations, our observations and our […]

What do you think of single women raising children on their own – is it a good thing for society, a bad thing, or do you think it doesn’t make much difference? In 2018 and again in 2021, a representative national sample of close to 10,000 adults in the U.S. answered that question. Results showed […]

When I was researching my book How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century, I asked many people how they would like to live if they could choose any way at all. One popular fantasy was the Golden Girls model – a group of people would all live together under the […]

More and more young, talented single women without children are pursuing jobs in business and STEM fields (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math). They should have it made. Because they are not mothers, they are not at risk for the workplace penalties mothers sometimes face. And because employers may see them (whether accurately or inaccurately) as […]

I was once interviewed by a reporter writing a cover story for the Washington Post Magazine on people who stay single. I told her that I love being single. It is who I really am. I’m Single at Heart. In the story she wrote, she said that after talking to me, she tried to think […]

This is the 2nd of Jill Summerville’s 2-part article, “Single women with disabilities: A worth universally doubted.” Part 1 is here. A Woman With A Disability Must Be In Want Of A Marriage A Google search for “How can I build my dream girlfriend?” provides so many options that VideoInk actually ranked the best virtual […]

Jill Summerville describes the many ways that single women with disabilities are unfairly disadvantaged. This is Part 1 of 2. Bella’s intro: The experiences and perspectives of people with disabilities have been vastly underrepresented in writings about single people. I am so grateful to Jill Summerville for all she is sharing in her 2-part contribution […]

Single people are targets of singlism: they are stereotyped, stigmatized, and discriminated against. Research documenting singlism is piling up, but do Americans realize it even exists? And if they are told about ways in which single people are treated unfairly, do they acknowledge that the unequal treatment is in fact unfair? YouGov just reported the […]

My heart was broken again recently, when I heard the story of still another single person (I’ll call him Sam) who really wanted to stay single but could not get past the feeling that doing so would mean there was something seriously wrong with him. Sam and many other people whose best life may well […]

On November 29, the Census Bureau released its estimates of America’s family and living arrangements for the year 2021. Results showed a continuation of trends ongoing for decades. The number and percentage of unmarried Americans has grown, as has the number and percentage of people living alone. The age at which people first marry, among […]