The Subversive Implication of Same-Sex Marriage that No One Predicted

Marrying a platonic friend for financial and practical benefits can be a deliciously subversive individual act, but for social justice writ large, we need more.

Journalists and Social Scientists Glorify Married People. Will We All Look Back in Shame?

It is open season on people who are not married. It always has been. Our lives are inferior, we are told, over and over again. What’s more, the reporters and moralizers and others telling us our lives are second rate claim to have the backing of science. Get married, they tell us, and we will […]

Why Is Marriage Still So Glorified When So Many People Are Not Married?

It is a paradox of contemporary life in the U.S. and in other nations around the world: More people than ever before are not married, and yet, in so many ways, marriage still rules. Marriage retains a special place in the cultural and legal landscape, and married couples are glorified and celebrated and rewarded simply […]

Beyond the Nuclear Family: New Policies and Practices Are Needed for the Way We Live Now

We are living in a time of unprecedented possibilities for how to live. Nuclear family households may still be sentimental favorites in popular culture, but in real life, they are in the distinct minority. Fewer than 20 percent of all households in the U.S. are comprised solely of nuclear families. Instead, we have a proliferation […]

How the Washington Post (Almost) Published a Week of Respectful Articles about Unmarried Life

In the week leading up to Valentine’s Day, the “In Theory” blog at the Washington Post published a series on Singlehood in America. The editors initially invited six experts and scholars to contribute. The introductory article listed only those six. If only those people wrote for the series, it would have been one of the […]

Unmarried Status Is a Diversity Issue

Get married, have kids, stay married. That’s the script for how adult lives are supposed to unfold. Never mind that in the U.S., the script maps onto the real lives of fewer and fewer people all the time. Nearly half of all adults 18 and older are legally single, and growing numbers of them never […]

Unmarried Americans as Home Buyers and Home Creators

Want to know who buys homes in the U.S. and why? If so, you will need to look way past people who are married, who are now just one of the many categories of people buying a home and making a home. In the most recent of their annual reports of home buyer profiles, the […]

The Right to Be Single

Now that all couples have a right to marry, can we now have a right to be single?

Nuclear Family Privilege: Naming It and Slaying It

Our organization is called Unmarried Equality for good reason. Those two words should go together. Only they don’t. If you are unmarried, you are unequal. Unequal under the law, unequal in the workplace, unequal in the marketplace, and unequal in everyday life.

Is Marriage a Greedy Institution?

[This is the sixth in my new series of monthly columns. The views expressed here are my own and not the official positions of Unmarried Equality.] In our matrimaniacal society, there is a lot of bedrock talk about marriage. The institution, we are told, is the bedrock of society, the very foundation of civilization. It […]